I want to share something with you that I “know” will be beneficial to anyone who is in relationship with a human being at some time in your life. Whether you agree or not with what I’m about to say doesn’t matter to me, because I know beyond any shadow of doubt that its truth and that alone gives me confidence to share it.
I had a “personal revelation” today of how easy it is to think that I know more about a situation than I really do. In other words, I’m admitting that I was in pride and ignorance about something very, very important. I was discussing something with the most important person God has placed in my life…my wife. I thought a certain situation was one way when in fact it was totally opposite. But in my pride and totally uninformed opinion it was quite another; which the Lord was able to clearly show me after I got quiet enough to hear Him.
He showed me that we can get so familiar with people in our relationships at all levels that we can actually be treating them with less value, respect, and honor than they deserve and certainly less than God would expect us to show them.
There’s a quote I heard somewhere in the past and it goes like this, “familiarity breeds contempt”. That may be the extreme end of the spectrum, but catch it before it goes that far. In other words, when we get to familiar with those closest to us, we may stop treating them as good as we used to when we first got into relationship with them. And when it comes to husbands and wives, this is much more important for long-term happy marriages.
And to all you guys out there, I’ve probably completely violated one of the cardinal doctrines of being able to carry a man-card. But when it comes to our wives, we need to slow down, disconnect from our opinionated logic and really try to understand the hearts of our wives. I know I do! Mine is precious and I don’t deserve how good she is to me so many times; I’m serious. But thank God He gave her to me, I can’t imagine life without her; it just wouldn’t be the same.